Arrogance Is Often Behind Frequent Tantrums
Patients with frequent tantrums often hide arrogance. Arrogant people must always be right, do not tolerate being contradicted or corrected, and are also constant victims of their own frustration. It is an important point to point out that narcissism often hides behind pride, and forms a very exhausting type of personality.
We know that it is difficult for arrogant people to see “the tile in their own eye”. They probably can not, because their nose is so close to the mirror that they can not even see themselves. But we have become so accustomed to this kind of presence in our environments that almost without knowing it, we have ended up normalizing narcissism and arrogance. We see this in politicians, we see it in companies, and we see it in parts of new generations.
An arrogant person, no matter how old they are, “knows everything” and no one can teach or show them anything because they already have it on their “CV”. They also often put the needs of others on the back bench, and can have emotional maturity as a 6-year-old child.
Those who meet them daily are already familiar with their frequent tantrums. They have very thick skin and very great pride. They get angry at the slightest thing and they lose control. They often show behaviors like not talking to you for a while. Or they carry grudges for a long time if someone upsets them even if it is over something small and insignificant…
Frequent tantrums and what lies beneath the mask of arrogance
Arrogance is always a mask, a hedgehog-like disguise where spikes act as a wall of defense, so that no one can see fear, character flaws and weaknesses. For example, if someone tells me that I should be more patient and take things slow, I will not hesitate to be vigilant and put out my spikes (They have questioned my good work). It will not help that they said it in good faith either – I will take it as an insult.
Self-esteem is low in this type of personality. This feeling of inferiority often becomes a source of aggression. A catapult loaded with anger, defiance and bitter frustration. The need to be better than others in any situation, circumstance or context also becomes a delusion of power. Going against them, even when it comes to the most insignificant things, will be perceived as offensive.
For these personalities, pride is a sophisticated reward system. The most interesting thing is that this suit full of spikes is usually created in childhood as a way to hide uncertainty. Later, this becomes a way to respond to problems or disappointments. This is because arrogant personalities use arrogance and aggression to mark their territory , to find validation.
But what arrogant people really get is distance between themselves and others. They have a vicious cycle of superficial conditions.
What should we do when we meet people who are often furious?
Behind frequent anger, there is clearly a problem with emotional coping, self-esteem and psychological balance. No one can constantly live on the brink of rage, wrapped in a lion’s mane and continuously roaring. Therefore, if we have this type of person in our environment, one thing must be clear. It is not your problem and you are not the cause of their discomfort. The problem is, in fact, theirs.
When anger becomes a way of being, nothing develops around these people. Also, if arrogance and narcissism lie beneath the surface and want to control everything and take all the benefits, the best thing we can do is distance ourselves and not waste our energy on confrontation.
This is because pride cannot be cured by arguing, but only by letting the proud person finally look at himself in the mirror. They have to get rid of the roar of lions and the costume of the hedgehog. In all these costumes are their weaknesses, their feelings of emptiness, their labyrinths of insecurity and even their scared inner children who continue to respond with anger to what they do not like.
Frequent anger, believe it or not, is a part of many adults’ daily lives. Therefore, it is worth investing time, attention and a good dose of love in our children. We must teach them how to love and how to tolerate frustration.
Let’s deal with these situations – educate your children properly.
