Bittersweet: Action Says More Than Words

Each of us relates to people in different ways. Thus, there are people who prefer close contact and others who prefer more distant. There are people who easily trust other people, and others who are more vigilant. In this sense, there are also people who make your life bitter, while others specialize in making it sweeter. And then there are the bittersweet people.

When we interact with sweet people, we feel that we are listening to the most beautiful melodies. They treat us well and know how to use the right words. They are sincere in a sensitive way. They are very different from people who embitter our lives.

Bitterly sweet people: How are they?

There are people who make us believe that they are the best thing that has happened to us because they tell us what we want to hear. Often, with their praise, they want our approval or make us feel good. They can even pursue both goals at the same time. In any case, when their words are not sincere, their actions often betray them.

For example, some may say that we are the best at taking care of children, but never let us babysit for their own children. No matter how sweet their words are, their actions show their true feelings to us, which can be hurtful. Yet it is sometimes difficult to get rid of them. Even though we know that their words are not true, we are tempted to revel in them.

It is as if we forget the pain they have caused us for a moment. Their words give such a sense of security and security that it is difficult to go back to reality and understand that they are lying.

Bitter people make your life bitter

If someone’s words do not coincide with their actions, it is likely that they will make your life bitter. In addition, they usually have the following characteristics:

• They are not sincere. When you take them in their first lie, you start to be more suspicious. Other facts they may have shared may be false or they may have other motivations.
• They are not spontaneous. Lying is complicated. It requires good memory and self-control.
• What makes you feel bad is not important to them. They do nothing to help or change their behavior, even when you tell them about the things that make you feel uncomfortable.
• They manipulate. With their words, they make you feel guilty for not behaving in a certain way. They take advantage of what you say and do not hesitate to use it against you and to their advantage.

People who use your words against you to take advantage of you are not worth it. They are just trying to hurt you or seek their own benefit. There is an interest involved. If you feel trapped by the words of someone who does not treat you well and repeatedly makes you feel bad, you should stay away from them.

Now, not everyone is artificially cute. On the contrary, many people firmly believe in what they say when they praise us. There are also many who give us sincere compliments. They point out what they like about us because they really like us.

How can you protect yourself from bittersweet people?

Sometimes it’s hard to know how to protect yourself from people who make your life bitter, especially if they use sweet words at the same time. However, there are several strategies that can help us:

• Setting limits.
• Trust ourselves.
• Appreciate ourselves.

Protecting ourselves from people who make our lives bitter is our responsibility. If we can set boundaries, why not do it? That way, it will be easier to protect ourselves.

Benefits of protecting yourself from bittersweet people

Protecting ourselves from people who are deceptively charming helps us to free ourselves from them. Little by little, these people become toxic. They do it gradually to make it harder to break free from them. Some of the benefits of setting boundaries are:

• More peace.
• Less stress.
• Less guilt.
• Greater security.
• Improved self-esteem.
• Increased self-awareness.
• Greater harmony.

Self-awareness will be your ally when it comes to setting boundaries for a bittersweet person. Having a better connection with yourself will also make it easier to be more confident.

Do not let your life become a living hell. Remember that there are artificial sweeteners everywhere. Stopping them is up to you. Why listen to someone who says beautiful words but treats you badly? Ultimately, actions say more than words, no matter how sweet they may seem.