Like It Or Not, Unforeseen Events Will Happen

What is the meaning of life? To live it or to control it? Living it will satisfy us, but controlling it will never give us any joy. Therefore, we should enjoy life to the fullest. Although unforeseen events will occur, teaching us to anticipate and prepare for them will help us to enjoy the things we cannot control.

Usually the word “unforeseen” describes something that surprises us. We need to know how to distinguish the unforeseen from the planned. We can not deceive ourselves by calling some situations, which we have done nothing to avoid due to laziness or forgetfulness, predictable. Lack of foresight always leads to improvisation.

The worst thing about unforeseen events is that when they happen, we become so preoccupied with looking for a solution that we forget to ask ourselves if we could have foreseen them. And when we realize that it’s too late to solve the problem, we usually feel discouraged and helpless.

This is how you can prepare for unforeseen events in your life

Sometimes life disrupts everything, including the problems we think we have. Existence is not what we think or want. That’s what’s happening to us. By acting only on what happens to us, and not on what we imagine or want, we can deal with any unforeseen events that may occur.

While it is not easy to survive the unexpected, it is not impossible either. First of all, we must understand that unexpected situations will always happen. Thus, it is better to be prepared for them when they happen and to have more resources available.

Here are four tips that will help you deal with unexpected events much better:

• Prepare a plan B. You should always have several different paths you can follow.
• Expectation. Think about the most likely events that could happen. Prepare a contingency plan for each of them.
• Make decisions with confidence. Even if you do not have all the information before an unforeseen event, you need to trust that you know what is right in each situation.
• Ask for help. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that something has taken you to bed and that you need a helping hand.

Some people want so much control that they forget to live

Some people think they can control everything. This belief is related to how our memory plays tricks on us by judging facts and manipulating information to support our choices. This can lead to control errors.

People who are obsessed with control really do not enjoy life. They assume that they are responsible for everything that happens around them. On the one hand, this can make them feel omnipotent. On the other hand, this can lead to them feeling extremely incompetent in dealing with their own problems and externally controlled by others or by their circumstances.

These qualities make them very obsessive and controlling, leaving little room for crazy or funny situations. In addition , they tend to suffer when they can not control anything.

Approval and Engagement Therapy (ACT) enables us to reflect on the use of control. While it is true that most situations can be handled through our conscious efforts, the opposite happens in a small but important percentage of situations. The more we try to control them, the more uncontrollable and traumatic they become.