Suffering In Silence – A Typical Human Thing

Many of us do. We hide in our little shell to suffer in silence,  alone  and without anyone noticing. We put on a brave face and pretend that nothing is happening while there is actually endless struggle inside us. Until that happens, until one day we can no longer endure, and we break up.

We are social beings, and yet most of us choose to suffer in a lonely way. We prefer to share laughter, good moments.

We stick to routines with the people around us because that’s how we feel we have a certain amount of control. As if nothing was devouring us inside.

Something both psychologists and psychiatrists are very aware of is that trauma and silence almost always go hand in hand. It is not easy to talk out loud about things that hurt us.

There are two specific reasons for this: we are afraid of being judged, and above all of showing our vulnerability. Because in this ruthless world, strong personalities win. Those who tolerate everything, who do not complain, and instead are models of optimism and self-confidence.

It is devastating to realize that in today’s world, suffering is still a stigma. Unfortunately, there are so many people with depression who still go without treatment. In fact, the suicide rate among young people has risen to alarming heights.

Take a moment to think about this.

Reasons why you should NOT suffer in silence

Not long ago, a well-known newspaper published a personal letter from a woman who said that she could no longer continue with her life. She had become a mother for the third time, and felt that she could not get out of bed. As strange as it may seem, almost 80% of the comments were purely derogatory, and at times they bordered on cruelty.

Postpartum depression is still an almost taboo subject even today. If a woman experiences this mood disorder after giving birth, she is immediately stigmatized.

Because what society expects of her is that she should be perfect and happy. Therefore, as sad as it is, many mothers go through this period behind closed doors, in a private and almost brutal way. All because they fear the criticism of the world.

The same thing happens with teenagers. Boys and girls who are victims of bullying, they suffer in silence and do not ask for help. They hide in solitude and alone in their rooms, which is the only place where they feel safe. There is not enough.

We must act before it is too late. Before our will becomes even weaker and our lives feel meaningless.

6 reasons why we should stop suffering in silence

The first reason to stop suffering in silence is simple and obvious. If you do not, the suffering will continue to last. If you do not take the step to ask for help, the pain will only get worse. There will be a long, suffocating, destructive silence.

• The symptoms become even more resistant. We stop being human and become pain. The symptoms become much more complex.
• Negative thoughts will intensify. We are trapped in our own personal prison cell.
• There comes a moment when social contact becomes uncomfortable for us, and we will reject it. Hugs, emotional love and kind words will lose their meaning. We will look at them with suspicion and interpret them as threats.
• Postponing the need to ask for help will make it more difficult to treat the disorder.
• We maintain the stigma. By not taking the step, by not letting ourselves get professional help or communicating what is happening to us to someone we trust, we only feed the idea that trauma and suffering go hand in hand with silence.

To connect with someone to be cured

Disorders isolate us, but connecting with our fellow human beings and ourselves is therapeutic. When we share our vulnerabilities and pain with the right person, or a qualified professional, we take two steps forward.

The first is because we have stopped sabotaging ourselves. No one chooses to go through postpartum depression. No one deserves to be a victim of bullying, or a slave to a traumatic past or a lost childhood. And no one deserves to take such poor care of themselves that they no longer love themselves.

The other benefit we get from it is emotional catharsis. Many people come to psychotherapy dressed in the armor of rage. In reality, they are just hiding their vulnerability.

Finally, therapy will encourage reconciliation and proper connection with the environment. And then they will let their links fall away, bit by bit.

It is a slow, tedious process, there is no doubt about it. But there is something we all deserve: to stop suffering in silence and to have someone who understands us and helps us.

Let’s take a moment to think about it. Let us come out of loneliness so that we can be ourselves again, without fear.

Last but not least, we must remember that suffering changes us. It haunts us until we become another person. We stop being true to ourselves. And that – it’s something no one deserves.